Influencing Change - Stories To Use In Coaching

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Newsletter 3, 2007: Stories To Use In Coaching

"To be a person is to have a story to tell." - Isak Dinesen

There are six types of stories that will serve you well in your efforts to influence others.  If you would like a later newsletter to outline background to each of the story types below, please let me know.

I.   Who I Am Stories
II.   Why I Am Here Stories
III.  My Vision Story
IV. Teaching Stories
V.  Values in Action Stories
VI.  "I Know what you are Thinking" Stories

In past newsletters (The "Pearls of Wisdom" series) I passed on a few excellent stories that I found useful when relating to others, especially when trying to influence groups.  This story is one of the teaching stories.  It may prove useful to you in talking about change.
In the next column you may purchase  a complete workshop program (booklet + PowerPoint presentation) that you may want use in your professional development programs, especially if you are addressing the issues of change and change management.  

The Monkey with the Wooden Apples

There once was a happy monkey wandering the jungle, eating delicious fruit when hungry, and resting when tired. One day he came upon a house, where he saw a bowl of the most beautiful apples. He took one in each hand and ran back into the forest.

He sniffed the apples and smelled nothing. He tried to eat them, but hurt his teeth. They were made of wood, but they were beautiful, and when the other monkeys saw them, he held onto them even tighter.

He admired his new possessions proudly as he wandered the jungle. They glistened red in the sun, and seemed perfect to him. He became so attached to them, that he didn't even notice his hunger at first.

A fruit tree reminded him, but he felt the apples in his hands. He couldn't bear to set them down to reach for the fruit. In fact, he couldn't relax, either, if he was to defend his apples. A proud, but less happy monkey continued to walk along the forest trails.

The apples became heavier, and the poor little monkey thought about leaving them behind. He was tired, hungry, and he couldn't climb trees or collect fruit with his hands full. What if he just let go?

Letting go of such valuable things seemed crazy, but what else could he do? He was so tired. Seeing the next fruit tree, and smelling it's fruit was enough. He dropped the wooden apples and reached up for his meal. He was happy again.

Letting Go Of Wooden Apples

Like that little monkey, we sometimes carry things that seem too valuable to let go. People often carry an image of themselves as "productive" - carrying it like a shiny wooden apple. But in reality, their busyness leaves them tired, and hungry for a better life. Still, letting go seems crazy. Even their worries are sacred apples - they prove they're "doing everything they can."  They hold onto them compulsively.

This is a hard thing to see. We identify so strongly with our things even, feeling pain when our cars are dented. How much more powerfully do we identify with our beliefs and self-ideas? Yet they don't always feed our souls, do they?
And we become tired of defending them.

How else could the story end?

The monkey might be found dead of hunger, under a beautiful tree, with fruit within reach, but still grasping his wooden apples.

I chose to end it with him letting go, because only with open hands can we receive, and with open minds, can we truly hear.

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Workshop Dates
(Principals, Appl. Writing)
Brisbane (Alderley) 19 Feb
Brisbane (Mt Gravatt) 20 Feb
Gold Coast 21 Feb
Sun Coast 26 Feb
Toowoomba 28 Feb
(Principals, Interview Skills)
Brisbane (Alderley) 19 Mar
Brisbane (Mt Gravatt) 20 Mar
Gold Coast 21 Mar
Sun Coast 26 Mar
Toowoomba 28 Mar

(Assoc Admin, Appl. Writing)
Brisbane (Alderley) 23 Feb
(Assoc Admin, Interview Skills)
Brisbane (Alderley) 23 Mar

TRAINING MATERIALS:
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Change Management Program 
Learning Objectives:
 

Change is a permanent feature of all organisations regardless of sector or size. However the ability to harness and manage change to bring about a positive outcome for the organisation is one of the main challenges faced by all leaders - it is also the greatest source of competitive advantage.

This comprehensive Change Management learning package will help all organisations and schools come to terms with change and also enable department heads and staff to manage change effectively.

Program Description

What is Change?
·                 Drivers For Change
·                 The Change Adept Organisation
Types of Change.
·                 Incremental
·                 Planned
·                 Transformational
Dimensions of Change.
·               Leader-Driven
·               Process-Driven
·               Improvement-Driven
·               Organisational Renewal
Preparing For Change.
·               Pressure For Change
·               A Clear Shared Vision
·               Actionable First Steps
·               Developing Belief
Resistance To Change.
·                 Why Change Doesn't Work
·                 Reasons For Resistance
·                 Dealing With Ambiguity
Leading Change.
·                 Why Do We Need Change Leadership
·                 Change Leadership
·                 Fighting Complacency
Communicating and Implementing Change.
·                 The Transition
·                 Communicating The Change
Implementing Change.
·                 Stakeholder Involvement
·                 Leading From The Top/Delivered From The Bottom
·                 Measured and Monitored
·                 Coping With Change
Change Failure.
·                 Why Does Change Fail?

·                 Are You Ready For Change?

Program materials: 31 page workbook (MS Word) and 71 slide PowerPoint.
Cost: $55.00 incl GST.

 

Sent by Mel Phillips; (07) 5530 2676; mel@willdo.com.au; www.willdo.com.au
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